Composure. Have you ever observed a leader who got visibly upset when things didn’t go his way? What did you think about that person? Did you admire him more deeply for his honed leadership skills?
Dr. James Dobson, describing the angry leader, says, “Anger assassinates authority.” When we show anger, hurt, frustration, belligerence, or resort to a search for culprits when things go wrong, we lose respect in the eyes of all who observe—we lose influence.
What’s really happening is that we are making it about us, placing ourselves at the center. It’s a form of self-centeredness. To be truly professional leaders we must be transformed by the most difficult and the most radical of human shifts—we make it about them.
It’s called “love” in the truest sense.
I call it deviant behavior, because professional leadership means we deviate from normal human behavior and urges in order to do the right thing.
Use the “Leadership Questionnaire,” developed by J Oswald Sanders, to create awareness around your behaviors—write your findings in your journal.